I have been cuckolding men for over a decade! It all started with a guy I was in a relationship with in my early 20’s, and I’ve been a cuckoldress ever since! Which is why today I want to talk about what cuckolding is! I’ll not only share with you the definition, but also some variations and some helpful tips for those of you wanting to get into cuckolding!
Cuckolding is a sexual and relationship dynamic that involves a committed couple where one partner (the “cuckold”) derives pleasure from watching their partner (the “hotwife” or “cuckoldress”) engage in sexual activities with someone else (the “bull” or “lover”). This practice is typically consensual and is rooted in the concept of erotic humiliation and/or voyeurism.
In a traditional cuckolding scenario:
- Cuckold (cuck): The cuckold is the male partner in the relationship who gets turned on from seeing his partner being sexually intimate with another man.
- Hotwife/Cuckoldress: The Hotwife/Cuckoldress is the female partner who participates in sexual encounters with someone other than her primary partner (the cuckold).
- Bull/Lover: The bull or lover is the person with whom the cuckoldress engages in sexual activities. This third person is usually someone outside of the primary relationship and is often chosen for their ability to sexually satisfy the cuckoldress.
This dynamic can also occur with the female in the relationship being cuckolded by her partner, she is then referred to as the Cuckquean.
The Hotwife/ Cuckoldress can also be a Queen of Spades, which means all of her lovers are black men.
Cuckolding is not the same as cheating. Unlike cheating, cuckolding involves consent from all parties involved and is based on the couple’s mutual agreement to explore this dynamic. In fact, its not unusual for the cuckold to be very active in searching for lovers for his partner.
Open communication, trust and mutual respect are all very important when considering a non-monogamous dynamic such as cuckolding. The cuckold, cuckoldress and bull should all be comfortable and consenting to engage in this type of sexual exploration, and it’s important to discuss boundaries to ensure the emotional well-being of everyone involved. This could be that the cuck must always be present during his cuckoldress’s sexual activities with her lover.
I often receive messages from guys that want to be cucked by their partner but are worried it may cause the relationship to breakdown. Below are my top tips to give your relationship the best chance whilst exploring cuckolding.
- Open communication: The foundation of any successful sexual exploration is open and honest communication. Discuss your desires, fantasies and boundaries with your partner. Watching some of your favourite cuckolding porn with your partner can be a helpful way to introduce your fantasies to your partner.
- Establish trust: Make sure you have a strong foundation of trust with your partner before considering cuckolding. Openly discuss insecurities, concerns and fears that you each may have, and support each other.
- Establish boundaries: Define your boundaries and limits as a couple. These may include rules about specific sexual acts, safe sex practices, particular individuals, emotional connections, frequency of encounters, or any other aspects you feel are important. These boundaries may develop or change over time, so ongoing communication is key.
I hope you have a clearer understanding of what cuckolding is after reading my post. Will you be looking to bring to life your cuckolding fantasy after reading my blog post? Make sure to keep checking back for future posts! As such an experienced cuckoldress I can provide you with a lot of valuable help navigating such a fantastic dynamic.
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