I saw a meme today that resinated with me. It read “Hubby, please don’t be jealous. My bull has my body, but you have my heart!” Which brings me very neatly on to the topic of this blog. Three ways you can be useful as a cuckold!
- Emotional Intimacy: Emotional intimacy is vital in any relationship. This is generally lacking in the dynamic between your cuckoldress and her bull. So this is your opportunity to step up and make sure it’s available to her in your relationship with her. Emotional intimacy requires vulnerability and empathy, which as a beta you could be better at than an alpha typically is. Providing her with emotional intimacy will leave you both feeling better connected, supported and valued! Emotional intimacy involves a deep and meaningful connection between you that goes beyond the surface-level interactions she will be enjoying with her bull. It’s about sharing your thoughts, feelings, fears, and dreams with someone in a vulnerable and trusting way. Some examples of how you can provide emotional intimacy are having deep conversations, showing empathy and providing comfort to your cuckoldress.
- Understand Her Love Language: There are Five love languages, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch. Mine, unsurprisingly is Acts of Service! To find out you and your partners, check out this link and take the test! Honestly, knowing this is such a game changer. So many relationships fail because they don’t understand each other’s love language! If your partners expectations are not fulfilled, it can lead to feelings of letdown and dissatisfaction. So if for example her love language is Quality time, make sure you schedule some one on one time with no distractions!
- Don’t make it about you: Unfortunately I see a lot of selfish beta’s that focus too much on them getting off on their partner being with someone else and not enough on if their partner is having the best time she can be. Communicate with her about her expectations, ask her how you can be helpful. Some examples of things you might like to offer to help things go smoothly include, being chauffer for your partner and or her bull. Being on hand to make drinks for them. Making sure she is comfortable, perhaps she’d like a pillow to kneel on? Her pleasure should be top of your priority list!
I have heard from betas that focus on ways they can thrive as a beta, rather than fixating on their short comings that they have much improved self esteem! Accepting your place as a beta will have such a positive impact on your life. Cuckolding is actually a win win for you! You get to be with an amazing women, even though you don’t possess the attributes to ever sexually please her, and you get the relief of not having the pressure to perform for her, because her bull is taking care of that for you.
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